It’s fascinating how the more educated and intelligent people are, the more eloquently they assure themselves of their own bullshit. Literally, the brightest, kindest, most self-aware people I know, can weave some of the most self-deceiving stories imaginable. And worse, they rationalize every aspect of their pulitzer worthy crap into a self-destructive loop that blinds them to the very heart of the cause of their own suffering (themselves).

I’m not talking miss the forest for the trees, I’m talking miss the scorched earth beneath what were the trees that burned down with the rest of the forest… five years ago. Are you stuck in a relationship that YOU can’t (uhem won’t) get YOURSELF out of?! Are you working with dishonest, unethical or simply uninspired people in a job you dislike? Do your “friends” let you down, not follow through on commitments, consistently complain, deceive, or live in a way that conflicts with your values?

OF COURSE YOU ARE! You’re a brilliant human being capable of BULLSHITTING yourself right into a hole! Maybe your relationship’s great but your boss is a scoundrel. Maybe your job is amazing but your husband is sleeping with the babysitter. Maybe your babysitter is a sweetheart but she’s the only one that remembered your birthday! F’n hell WHAT ARE YOU DOING!?!?!

You know the “friends” that should NOT be in your life. You know the values that are too important to compromise. You know the habits you need to change. YOU KNOW the sibling, friend or colleague who has crossed the line. DID YOU HOLD THAT BOUNDARY AND SAY NO?! Did you quit your job or cancel the deal when you discovered the dubious undertaking it embodied? Did you call your friend out on her folly as her own self-bullshitting mind rationalized a way to justify cheating on her spouse, lying to her boss or excusing the actions of the person abusing her?

Or is that person you… Of course it is. It’s all of us. On some level, in someway, we all eloquently assure ourselves of our own self-destructive crap. I spent a lifetime mastering the art of rationalizing self-bullshit, particularly about staying in utterly unacceptable relationships. I could turn a woman’s, lying, cheating, intimidation, threats, shaming, blaming, neglecting, criticizing, embarrassment, isolation, psychological & financial manipulation into “Love.” LOVE!?!? Are you kidding me? I mean… Am I kidding me? I was.

But a little life implosion goes a long way. Enter, Clarity, Wisdom and a lot less self-bullshit. It’s easy to think time or knowledge brings growth but “to know and not to act is yet to know.” It is only through conscious decision and action (upon that knowledge) do we grow. I often hear people say they “need to fix something” but there’s no fix. There is no finish line. There is just constant never ending improvement. The question is simply, what do you want to improve and when do you want to start?

Would NOW be a good time?! Of course it would! There is no better time than now. TODAY. The Winter Solstice when all the days ahead are about to get longer bigger and brighter! It is the very definition of REBIRTH! The sun returns! The days grow longer and everything is possible….. as long as you look yourself squarely in the face and say “I AM FULL OF SHIT!” Because you are. If you are suffering in any area of your life it’s because you continue to bullshit yourself about why that suffering is acceptable; You continue to bullshit yourself that the cause of that suffering is something external.

The good news is the same set of skills, knowledge and intellect that cunningly bullshitted you right into hell, can bust you out just as fast! All ya gotta do is begin…. and there’s no better day than today!

So rock on people!! {…or insert bullshit excuse not to here}


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